In recent years, self-care has received attention as an important way to reduce everyday stress. Self-care involves evidence-based practices that improve physical, mental, and emotional wellness. These activities include exercise, spirituality, healthy sleep practices, nutritious eating, practicing gratitude, and engaging in enjoyable hobbies. While self-care plays an essential role in managing anxiety and depression,[i] some people might still experience feelings of isolation since these activities are often performed alone for one’s benefit.
We can argue that many puzzle pieces are missing if we only focus on self-care: appropriate psychotherapy, medical supervision, laboratory testing for underlying medical conditions, or medications. However, I would like to emphasize the significance of community support in promoting mental health and well-being.
The past few years have seen significant changes in how we interact with one another, particularly due to the pandemic. These shifts have exacerbated social anxiety disorders and altered perceptions of community connection. Countless individuals have found themselves distanced from social opportunities, either by choice or circumstance. Many of us have not ventured back into society in quite the same way we used to. Factors such as moving, job changes, marriage or divorce, having children, financial challenges, and evolving social dynamics can all contribute to a sense of isolation and loneliness.
Despite these challenges, it is important to understand the importance of having a community. Engaging with others can be a powerful antidote to feelings of loneliness, as social support plays a vital role in coping with mental health issues. By understanding the benefits of community connections, you may feel more motivated to pursue relationships and reintegrate into social settings. This proactive approach can lead to improved mental well-being and a greater sense of fulfillment in life.
Research has long established that social support plays a vital role in mitigating stress, anxiety, depression, and other mental health disorders.[ii] Community support fosters mental health by:
Being part of a community instills feelings of value and unity among its members.
Emotional support reduces feelings of isolation and loneliness. Sharing experiences with others can offer validation and a sense of therapeutic relief.
Community members can help navigate challenges, like providing transportation, helping with tasks, or offering support during crises.
Communities can offer valuable insights and advice, helping individuals make informed decisions.
A supportive community can help diminish the stigma associated with mental health challenges, fostering open discussions and understanding.
A sense of community fosters social support, forming a network that addresses the health and social needs of individuals. This environment enhances our ability to prioritize self-care and engage in activities that promote mental well-being. When our social needs are met, we can better care for ourselves and provide more effective support to those around us. Finding a community that fulfills our longing for connection also allows us to develop significant friendships. A crucial aspect of our wholeness relies on interdependence, underscoring the psychological necessity for close relationships. While we may instinctively understand our need for community, we often struggle to identify what it entails and how to engage with it.
A fundamental trait of a community is unity, the sense of togetherness that links individuals. People within a community are often united by a sense of belonging, common values and objectives, a supportive atmosphere, positive attitudes, and similar interests or hobbies. Safety, backing from others, effective leadership, or even shared faith also contribute to this unity. Additionally, the ability to contribute to and receive support from the group as needs arise is also important.
It's important to recognize that community looks different for everyone. Ultimately, a safe and supportive community should feel like home. Some individuals may need to actively build their communities, while others can plug into existing social networks. Here are some practical suggestions for finding or creating community connections:
Look for opportunities such as game nights, lunch outings, play dates, book discussions, Bible studies, and school or homeschool sports events where you can interact with other parents. Consider participating in MomCo (formerly known as MOPS), enrolling in classes at a local community center, finding a local recovery program, or joining an activity club (like skiing, hiking, tennis, pickleball, chess, crocheting, etc.). Engaging in these activities can help you meet like-minded individuals. Many people find that intentional, regular meetings are essential to feeling connected with others.
Join local Facebook groups or online community forums that align with your interests. Don't hesitate to strike up conversations with the people around you—whether it's chatting with a couple walking their dog or connecting with familiar faces in your neighborhood. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be daunting, but what do you really have to lose compared to what you could gain?
If in-person gatherings feel daunting or are not available, think about joining an online support group or virtual meetups. Platforms like Zoom can facilitate connections with others facing similar challenges finding local communities.
Joining local (or virtual) programs is a wondering way to gain knowledge while finding a sense of belonging and support. One particularly effective program is the community-based Depression and Anxiety Recovery Program by Nedley Health. This 8-week mental health education program is specifically designed to create a safe, healthy environment where you will receive not only an abundance of practical education but also exceptional support. Knowing you are not alone in your struggles can be incredibly empowering and help foster meaningful connections. Learn more about this program, including finding community programs near you, here.
Volunteering to help host a community NDARP is another way to meet your community while filling the important need of mental health education. You won’t be alone with your NDARP involvement – you’ll collaborate with a team where you’ll likely find community in as well! Learn more about what’s entailed here.
Many individuals seek community through faith. Churches often offer nurturing small groups centered around specific interests, such as parenting or young adult gatherings. Participating in Bible studies, prayer groups, and church activities can provide a vital dimension of holistic care and spiritual fulfillment.
By exploring these avenues, you can begin to find a community that enhances your mental health and overall well-being. Remember, the journey to finding your community may require effort, but the connections you build will be well worth it.
Once you’ve found a community, it may take some time to cultivate trust and connection with others. It’s important to remember that not everyone will become a close friend. Instead, consider building relationships with a select few who resonate with you. To nurture safe friendships, prioritize open communication and vulnerability; share your thoughts and feelings over time while encouraging others to reciprocate. Engaging in common activities or shared interests can establish a strong basis for trust and understanding, making it easier to handle the complexities of friendships within your community. Personal friendships are healthiest when both parties are equally invested in giving and receiving. For further insights on maintaining healthy boundaries, we suggest reading Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend.
Even those who identify as introverts can benefit from community engagement. Studies show that individuals who participate in social activities tend to have higher self-esteem than those who remain isolated. [iii] The advantages of community far outweigh the challenges of finding and nurturing these connections.
Instead of viewing social support as something you should do for mental well-being, why not consider engaging with community as something you want to do because it brings you personal fulfillment. Engaging with a community can nourish your soul and provide a sense of purpose.
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In conclusion, while self-care is a vital component of mental health, it is equally important to recognize the role of community support. By actively seeking connections with others, you can enhance your mental well-being and foster a sense of belonging. Remember, there are people out there who will enrich your life, and taking the first step toward finding your community can lead to profound personal growth and fulfillment.
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References:
[i] U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. (n.d.). Caring for Your Mental Health. National Institute of Mental Health.
[ii] Acoba E. F. (2024). Social support and mental health: the mediating role of perceived stress. Frontiers in Psychology, 15, 1330720.
[iii] Tuovinen, S., Tang, X., & Salmela-Aro, K. (2020). Introversion and Social Engagement: Scale Validation, Their Interaction, and Positive Association With Self-Esteem. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 590748.
